Saturday, October 23, 2010

Friends

We all have friends. Family counts. Old people count. Babies count. But seriously, making new friends is amazing. If you know any people who you aren't friends with, you should try this. I made a new friend recently. I've known this girl for probably five years, and have never really been friends with her before this year. It started out as randomly being in the same classroom. We asked each other questions about music. "How do you record stuff?" "What do you think of this harmony?" "Do you ever [insert almost anything here]?" Which then turned into sharing music with each other. Not just any music, music we'd written. Sharing something so personal with somebody else can't help but build trust. Then we started having conversations and discovered, hey, we're super similar in the way we react to things and the way we think even though we come from backgrounds that are polar opposites. She and I are pretty much really great friends now. yeah, i know what you're thinking (actually that's a lie, i don't, but I'm guessing that you may be thinking something like this, at least after i tell you that you are) "That was a happy coincidence for you two to be spending time in a flexible classroom situation like that, but making friends isn't that easy." Well, you're right. that was a happy coincidence. making friends isn't that easy always. I find though, that the easiest way to make friends with someone else is to share something with them that will build trust. I'm not saying you should pour out your soul to complete strangers, but telling stories about your day/week is a pretty good way to start. smiling and saying hi helps too. it's hard to make new friends, but you may end up making friends with somebody who is your polar opposite and exactly like you at the same time. It's amazing. :)